As a parent, one of the most influential things you can instill in your child is a sense of manners. Doing so is a gift that can help him or her prepare for successful and meaningful interactions in the future. Teaching manners to your children is more important than ever, as media, television, and other factors seem to be an inescapable force and are not always promoting the best manners. Therefore, it is your responsibility as a parent to teach manners. There are some important things to keep in mind during the impressionable part of your child’s learning development.
Lead By Example
Your child may listen to what you have to say about manners, but the minute you go against what you say, your word will be rather meaningless. Especially while you are teaching them manners, be sure not to act hypocritically during times when you don’t think they are paying close attention. Say, for example, you are focusing on the importance of not interrupting another when he or she is speaking. At dinner, however, during a heated conversation with your husband you interrupt him in the middle of a sentence. Your child, whether he or she realizes it or not, is subsequently confused about why the rules don’t apply to everyone and in all situations. Continue reading
Go to Urgent Care to Beat the Back to School Vaccination Rush
Summer’s almost over and before you know it, the kids will be getting ready to go back to school. While you are in the midst of shopping for school clothes and supplies, do not overlook back to school vaccinations. There are many different viruses and diseases going around. The last thing you want to do is leave your children at risk for infection because you forgot to get them vaccinated.
Reasons to Stay up to Date on Vaccinations
While much the United States is caught up in the vaccination debate, many of today’s youth are being exposed to previously eradicated childhood diseases, such as measles, whooping cough and tuberculosis at an alarming rate. Even though the majority of these children have received some of their vaccinations and will not get sick, infection and mortality rates are rising at an alarming rate. Rather than take chances with your child’s health and life, err on the side of caution and check to see if they are up to date on all of their vaccinations.
Urgent Care Is More Convenient
Understandably, many parents do not have a great deal of time to wait for a doctor’s appointment that may not be available for several weeks. Many parents also do not enjoy having to sit in a doctor’s office for hours waiting for their child to receive their shots. An easy, economical and more convenient solution to prevent these situations is to find an urgent center instead.
With all of the recent changes in healthcare, some parents may experience some difficulty in getting their children’s vaccinations due to health insurance copays and deductibles, being restricted to certain doctors and a lack of evening or weekend hours. Fortunately, healthcare services at urgent care centers are much more affordable and accessible. Many centers are open every single day of the year, around the clock. This makes it easier and more affordable for parents to schedule their children’s back to school vaccinations conveniently around their schedule.
One of the biggest challenges of parenting is learning to how to discipline children. Parenting is about balance and moderation, but discipline can make many parents feel as though they are losing balance in the relationships with their children. You want your children to be sharp, independent, and obedient. Although no guide will answer every question about proper discipline, there are themes that can help you find the balance that helps your children recognize their wrongs and desire to do right.
Focus Discipline on the Wrong Act, Not the Child
After a hard day with your children, you might begin to think that your children are crazy animals! This is natural. Proper discipline starts by helping the child understand that they have done something wrong and desire to correct their actions. You do want to help them feel that their actions, however upsetting, cannot alter your love for them and regard for them as a person. When discipline or teaching focuses on the action and not the child, the child will not feel like they are being attacked; instead, he or she will sense your love and confidence in him or her. Continue reading
Depending on the age of your children, you may find that getting them to do chores is as easy as breathing or as hard as pulling teeth. With these three tips, your children will be asking for more chores and looking for other ways to help out around the house.
- Make Chores Fun
Nothing demotivates more to children than having to do chores that appear to be boring. The first few times you tell your children to do chores, show them ways to make their tasks fun. For example, let them invent a silly dance to do while sweeping a room. Or have them make up silly names for the dishes and pretend they are giving them a bath. Add a little food coloring to the dishwater or a little more dish detergent to add more bubbles. Continue reading
If you discover at some point that your child is not attending school, you’re probably upset and wondering exactly why he or she is not going to school. At first glance, you might think that your child is avoiding school because most children don’t want to go to school or to rebel or to avoid what he or she doesn’t like.
However, there might be a significant reason that you don’t yet know. For instance, there might be some bullying happening or your child might be having feelings of depression and feel left out from peer groups at school. Furthermore, your child might be experiencing a form of a mental illness, such as anxiety, and he or she doesn’t want you or friends to know.
So, the first step in trying to get your child to return to school is to uncover the source of the problem rather than jumping to conclusions. Furthermore, your child might be hiding report cards, throwing away letters from teachers, or avoiding discussions about classes. If grades are declining, children might be fearful of punishment or embarrassed to admit their failures. For this reason, get in touch with teachers. Email or call the school to be clear about how your child is doing academically. This will provide you with the information you need to support your child and to have a better understanding of what’s really going on. Continue reading
Whether your child is suffering from daily stress, depression or anxiety, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a tool that can be incredibly helpful.
Essentially, CBT helps a child respond to life differently by helping him or her identify negative and distorted thinking patterns. It addresses unhealthy patterns of thought that lead to making poor choices, which is typical for pre-teens and adolescents. Children between the ages of 12 and 18 are experiencing an explosion of growth, physically, emotionally, and psychologically. Even the brain’s neural network is rapidly making new connections. Children at this age tend to make choices based upon strong and passionate emotions versus rational thinking.
CBT is a tool for children to use to help identify their thoughts and help make better choices. For instance, CBT uses the term hot cognitions. It’s a phrase used to describe the experience of a thought that leads to an emotional charge. If a child believes that he or she did poorly on a school exam, the thought, “I failed” might invoke anger and disappointment. It’s a hot cognition because it leads to an emotional zing inside. In fact, a hot cognition is any thought, image, memory, or inner experience that leads to an emotional response within. They are the sensitive areas inside. For children, they are like getting his or her buttons pushed or getting flared up in some way emotionally. Continue reading
Research shows that many adopted children tend to develop a mental health diagnosis. In fact, a 2008 study compared about 500 adopted and non-adopted children and found that the odds of having an Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) or Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) diagnosis were approximately twice as high in adoptees compared with non-adoptees.
This can be even more problematic when adoption agencies hide information and mislead parents who are leaning towards adopting. Then, when adopted children begin to exhibit mental health symptoms, parents may not know how to respond. Furthermore, they may not have made the decision to adopt if they knew that their child might develop a mental illness. Continue reading
If your children are getting angry often with frequent outbursts of rage and defiance, you may want to help them with managing their anger. Anger is a natural and healthy emotion. However, if it becomes destructive and affects your child’s functioning in life, such as fights at school, few peer relationships, and impaired family relationships, then he or she may need to learn how to manage that anger.
Male and female children might express anger differently and have different relationships to this intense emotion. Of course, this isn’t true for all children, but typically society teaches males to express their anger outwardly while females learn to keep anger to themselves, expressing it only when it feels safe to do so. Continue reading
Self esteem could be described as having confidence in oneself. It’s having confidence in one’s abilities and having respect for who one is inside and out. Yet, there are so many factors that can contribute to a child’s self esteem, and the way that parents respond to their children can play a large role in lifting a child’s sense of self.
The following tips are ways that parent’s can help improve the self esteem and self confidence of their children.
Look for the good in your child. Instead of seeing the A he should have gotten, praise him on the B that he did get. Instead of seeing the marks that your daughter got on her term paper, praise her for researching and completing the paper in the first place. The emphasis on what he or she is doing well can help those positive behaviors grow. Although it might be apparent that praising your child can significantly support his or her positive sense of self, it’s easy to get caught up in the tasks of the day, chores and responsibilities, and the to-do list. For some parents, it’s easy to forget that relationships come first, and with that, seeing what your child did right instead of what he or she didn’t do can have significant impact on how she feels about her life. Continue reading
The digital age seems to be taking over the mind. We don’t have to remember phone numbers anymore or keep time or remember anniversaries. Our digital phones, computers, and Ipads are doing it for us. And it might make you wonder how the digital experience is affecting children today. In psychology and science, researchers are curious about that too.
An article in the New York Times points out that texting, which can be incredibly distracting, can take a toll on a teen’s mental health. From a study done by Pew Research Center, children are texting over 50 texts per day, and one third of children are texting 100 or more per day. One in seven children send more than 200 texts. It’s easier, they say, to text than to make a phone call.
The pattern of over-texting, however, has been a recent concern for doctors and psychologists. Sherry Turkle, a psychologist and director at Initiative on Technology believes that the excessive texting may cause a shift in the way teens develop. There’s a constant disruption in a teen’s attention from the task at hand, whatever that might be, to a text, back to his or her current activity, and back to the phone again. There’s very little ability to stay focused. Continue reading